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In other news... last day of classes for me today. Forever. Well, until next fall. I just can't believe it's all over. No more Kenney, Rupert, Alexander, any of them. Ever again. No more SK. Oh, SK, how I love thee.
I sort of have an idea for my![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-community.gif)
takethehouse fic, but I think I need to give up on trying to make it happy, and just say what I really think. Hmm. Or I can take Amanda's idea and just turn it into a shack story. Everyone loves a shack story, right? lol
My grandfather is apparently extremely worried for me that I do not have a prom date. Aside from correcting him, I am also frustrated yet still tolerantly amused by his old school attitude. From other people it might mean something different, but from him, and even my mom, it means that I am a failure at life because I do not have a man.
My mom really bugs me sometimes. I want to not be one of those women who says a stay-at-home mom is just skipping a career, because it's not. It's a choice, and if that's what you want, go you. But at the same time, I can't imagine it. I mean maybe one day when I have kids, I might set aside a career for a decade or so to raise them how I want them to be raised.
But to say, coming out of high school, or even college, "All right, I'm done, I want to be a housewife?" I really can't wrap my head around that being anything but a lack of ambition. I'm sorry. I really do try. I'm still trying, because I know it's not a bad thing. But everyone has private lives, everyone has a family life. Do something real, something outside the house, do something that only you can do. I would just stifle, I guess. If you won't, go for it. I just... I don't understand.
And so I see no reason why marriage is something you have to do to be considered a success at life. I think marriage should be because you don't want to be alone, because you want a partner, and because you're madly in love and want to be with them. And after that, if you want to have kids, go for it. But raising a family doesn't have to be for everyone, and it should not be an expected goal. Why do people's lives have to be planned out by some guideline I never agreed to?
Personally, I do want to get married. I want to find someone I'm dying to spend the rest of my life with, and tell him or her that and promise to be there for them forever, and expect the same in return. I don't know if I want to have kids, but I think I do. I don't want to do it because that's the plan. I don't think I'm a failure at life if I don't want to get married or raise a family.
My grandfather does. He thinks I'm going to be miserable because all my friends will have dates, and I'll be a loser. He doesn't get that we are independent girls, that while some girls (no names mentioned here, of course) were scrambling at the last minute because they needed to have dates, there are some of us who were fine with going solo. It's about being out with your friends and having fun. The one or two slow dances can be romantic and meaningful, or they can be a welcome drink break. I'm not the only one without a guy, and my grandfather, rather than accepting that, just gets confused. I think he thinks it's just the ugly girls who don't have dates.
He doesn't understand how I (his beautiful granddaughter) could end up without a date. Maybe it's because I don't go out and throw myself at guys, trying to get a date. I'm sure if I did, if I'd made an effort, yearlong, to be in a position to have a date for prom, I would have. But that's not my goal.
You don't need someone else to fulfill you. You just need to be who you are, and be all right with that. I am, and while I am thrilled that I do have someone, I would not have been crushed at going alone. I broke up with my boyfriend not so I could go with the person I am now, but because I would honestly have rather gone alone than with a guy I didn't particularly care for. It was not: Jen or Chris. It was an honest, "Do I want to take Chris, even if the alternative is going alone? No, I don't want to go with him." Jen is someone I want there, not need to fulfill me or as a last minute sub so I'm not going alone.
"Scorpion King" is on. It's ridiculous how much I enjoy that movie. The more I see Brendon Fraser, the more I love him. He's just damn likable. And the movie is almost Buffy-esque in its humor/horror/melodrama style. Very cute. I enjoy it, even if it is corny, and even if it does have the Rock, and really bad fighting and action sequences. They bore me. I'm not an action fan.
Actually, that's not strictly true. I enjoy a lot of action movies, but I like them for the backstory, or the characters, or the abundance of strong male characters (slash feeding frenzy!).
After my grandfather rant, I feel I should use my default "Normal people worry me" icon, but I have two new ones, and I need to use them. So we'll go old skool, cuz it's just a feel-good icon.
In other news... last day of classes for me today. Forever. Well, until next fall. I just can't believe it's all over. No more Kenney, Rupert, Alexander, any of them. Ever again. No more SK. Oh, SK, how I love thee.
I sort of have an idea for my
takethehouse fic, but I think I need to give up on trying to make it happy, and just say what I really think. Hmm. Or I can take Amanda's idea and just turn it into a shack story. Everyone loves a shack story, right? lolMy grandfather is apparently extremely worried for me that I do not have a prom date. Aside from correcting him, I am also frustrated yet still tolerantly amused by his old school attitude. From other people it might mean something different, but from him, and even my mom, it means that I am a failure at life because I do not have a man.
My mom really bugs me sometimes. I want to not be one of those women who says a stay-at-home mom is just skipping a career, because it's not. It's a choice, and if that's what you want, go you. But at the same time, I can't imagine it. I mean maybe one day when I have kids, I might set aside a career for a decade or so to raise them how I want them to be raised.
But to say, coming out of high school, or even college, "All right, I'm done, I want to be a housewife?" I really can't wrap my head around that being anything but a lack of ambition. I'm sorry. I really do try. I'm still trying, because I know it's not a bad thing. But everyone has private lives, everyone has a family life. Do something real, something outside the house, do something that only you can do. I would just stifle, I guess. If you won't, go for it. I just... I don't understand.
And so I see no reason why marriage is something you have to do to be considered a success at life. I think marriage should be because you don't want to be alone, because you want a partner, and because you're madly in love and want to be with them. And after that, if you want to have kids, go for it. But raising a family doesn't have to be for everyone, and it should not be an expected goal. Why do people's lives have to be planned out by some guideline I never agreed to?
Personally, I do want to get married. I want to find someone I'm dying to spend the rest of my life with, and tell him or her that and promise to be there for them forever, and expect the same in return. I don't know if I want to have kids, but I think I do. I don't want to do it because that's the plan. I don't think I'm a failure at life if I don't want to get married or raise a family.
My grandfather does. He thinks I'm going to be miserable because all my friends will have dates, and I'll be a loser. He doesn't get that we are independent girls, that while some girls (no names mentioned here, of course) were scrambling at the last minute because they needed to have dates, there are some of us who were fine with going solo. It's about being out with your friends and having fun. The one or two slow dances can be romantic and meaningful, or they can be a welcome drink break. I'm not the only one without a guy, and my grandfather, rather than accepting that, just gets confused. I think he thinks it's just the ugly girls who don't have dates.
He doesn't understand how I (his beautiful granddaughter) could end up without a date. Maybe it's because I don't go out and throw myself at guys, trying to get a date. I'm sure if I did, if I'd made an effort, yearlong, to be in a position to have a date for prom, I would have. But that's not my goal.
You don't need someone else to fulfill you. You just need to be who you are, and be all right with that. I am, and while I am thrilled that I do have someone, I would not have been crushed at going alone. I broke up with my boyfriend not so I could go with the person I am now, but because I would honestly have rather gone alone than with a guy I didn't particularly care for. It was not: Jen or Chris. It was an honest, "Do I want to take Chris, even if the alternative is going alone? No, I don't want to go with him." Jen is someone I want there, not need to fulfill me or as a last minute sub so I'm not going alone.
"Scorpion King" is on. It's ridiculous how much I enjoy that movie. The more I see Brendon Fraser, the more I love him. He's just damn likable. And the movie is almost Buffy-esque in its humor/horror/melodrama style. Very cute. I enjoy it, even if it is corny, and even if it does have the Rock, and really bad fighting and action sequences. They bore me. I'm not an action fan.
Actually, that's not strictly true. I enjoy a lot of action movies, but I like them for the backstory, or the characters, or the abundance of strong male characters (slash feeding frenzy!).
After my grandfather rant, I feel I should use my default "Normal people worry me" icon, but I have two new ones, and I need to use them. So we'll go old skool, cuz it's just a feel-good icon.
